Sunday, December 7, 2008

questions for the sane

ok so here's some questions. what do you do when you are head over heels for a guy you know it wont work out with? what do you do when you and said guy are just friends? what do you do when you meet someone new, and you like them, but your still not over the first guy? i unfortnatly am in this situation. i started dating this guy over the summer and just a couple of weeks ago we decided that it would be better for us to just be friends. i really like this guy, ALOT....and he says he really likes me too. but then he says other things that make me feel like he just says the first thing to make me feel better. i mean right now, we are just friends and thats fine, i honestly think we are too different to really get on well right now anyways. its just that the whole time i was with him, i was so confused by everything, what we were, what we werent, our lack of communication was scary. it was just a giant yo-yo of a relationship. i thought that if we talked about it and just decided one or the other then i would have some form of closuer for the whole thing. i was wrong, i'm still just as confused. i know i should talk to him about it, but i mean honestly what do i say? hey i know we are just friends but i still have major feelings for you, and i feel like im getting mixed signals from you via the phone and through email. yeah i dont really see that going over well...i mean i hate that he says things like, i prepped all week long to get my sleep schedual in sync like a normal person so that i would be ready to hang out with you....or..my cat misses you. i mean seriously what the hell?!?? what does that mean? is it the cat? or is it you? can you suddenly talk to animals? why wont you just tell me how you feel instead of being so freaking crypitic!?!
*breath in, breath out, breath in, breath out.....i will not cry over him...not again...breath in, breath out*
ok i feel better.
heres my other delima. i have this other guy, who is awesome. i really like him, and hes a great friend. the trouble is that im in a spot where im afraid that i might end up hurting him. he likes me way too much, more then i ever deserve, and the more time i spend with him the more i like him too. im just wondering when that is gonna wear off and i am tiered of him. now this guy and i have been dating since september, and we havent even kissed yet, now the reason being was that i was dating guy #1(see above) and was too close to him already and i dont have the menatlty to be close to more then one person at a time. now that guy #1 isnt in the picture i am trying to get closer to him. i actually plan on kissing him for the first time, thats gonna be my x-mas gift to him. i just really hope that i dont hurt him and/or get hurt myself. cause love sucks, and it hurts more then anything in the world when you dont have it in your life when you might have thought you did.

peace xOx

2 comments:

Beth said...

Lordy that made my head hurt a little. I think you are doing the right things though. If you call you-know-who on his shit right now, it's probably too soon and he would just push you away. That'll take some time I guess. If he ever figures out what his feelings are, that is. I think you are right to take it slow with nice guy too. that takes time too I guess and while you are being careful of his feelings, you can sort out your own. If that makes any sense.

I love you. Sorry about all that.

jannedoe said...

*hugs* Love often sucks quite royally.

Don't feel bad. I'm still confused about how I feel about this one person... who doesn't even know I like (liked?) them like that. Closure would be really great, but if it's been this long, will I ever get it?